A few days ago, I was shopping at the mall for a couple of birthday presents. Ahead of me in line was an older lady, buying a gift for her teenage granddaughter. She had been rung up when she noticed the little tubes of handcream by the register, and asked if she could add one to her sale. The salesgal said sure, but she would have to re-ring the whole thing again, and it was no trouble as long as the lady wasn’t in a hurry. Without a thought, I told her to put it on my purchase, so that the lady wouldn’t have to wait. The lady turned to me and said it wasn’t necessary, and I told her it was no bother, since I didn’t want her inconvenienced. She smiled and thanked me, and as she completed her sale, she took my hand and blessed me for my kindness.
I admit that stunned me a bit. I didn’t practice a kindness, as far as I was concerned. A courtesy? Yes, that’s what my parents taught us to do. But offering to purchase a little tube of handcream doesn’t elevate to a kindness in my book. It saddened me a bit to think that she thought it was, because perhaps she doesn’t experience kindnesses often. Sometimes we are in too much of a hurry to help others, and slowing down a bit can help put things in a better perspective.
The Golden Rule™: It’s where it’s at 😉
January 15th, 2012 at 9:17 AM
courtesy and kindness are rare commodities these days….
January 15th, 2012 at 10:00 AM
And all the more precious, when encountered.
January 15th, 2012 at 10:44 AM
Except you don’t know that perhaps her husband hadn’t just been diagnosed with late stage cancer or something equally traumatic, and it had nothing to do with the value of the cream and everything to do with a kindness she was shown on one of her most dark and alone days.
Maybe that scenario just proves your point even more powerfully, that we have so little human contact.
January 15th, 2012 at 11:10 AM
I have to agree that courtesy and kindness are rare. This was especially brought home to me in October. I was in the parking lot at Walmart, when my foot caught the edge of a parking lot divider, and I fell. While a few others just walked by, a young woman (early 20’s) came over to see if I was all right. An older man picked up my bags. I thanked the man, and then turned to the younger woman (who was back at her car by then), and said…”thank you for checking on me.” She replied, somewhat startled, “well, yeah….”
January 15th, 2012 at 12:18 PM
I raised my kids to try to perform at least one “random act of kindness” per day. The rewards are always greater than the effort.
January 15th, 2012 at 6:06 PM
Hmm sounds to me like you saved yourself time by not having to wait for her to re-ring everything up… at the cost of a small tube of lotion 🙂 If you look at it that way, you were being totally selfish.. Shame on you! =p
January 15th, 2012 at 6:56 PM
HAHAHAHA!!! Very funny 😛
January 15th, 2012 at 10:53 PM
Mommy, you’re such a beautiful person ❤